Tuesday, January 20, 2009


I really liked this piece of writing, I found that it put into perspective the difference between "falling in love/being in love" and "having a sexual relationship." I liked what Lewis' take on love and the romantic love. I that that it was a good point made at the begining when Lewis said that, "men are more prone to feeling a mere sexual appetite for a woman and then gone at later stage to 'fall in love' with her." I agree with this a lot. I have found over the past few years that men are always viewed to be visually stimulated, it is easy to understand that Lewis would describe men as first being attracted to women in a sexual way. It is a while after that they will actually take time to fall in love with the person as a whole, for who she is, and what she stands for.

I liked when Lewis talked about the sand castle being washed away. When he compared the ocean flooding toe castles to "Eros" and entering our lives one by one and overtaking the sexual lives of humans. I really like when he talks and uses metaphors because it makes things easier to understand. Especially when he talked about keeping an empty cigarette carton. I was just able to relate to the fact that no guy that is just looking for sex is going to stay and wait around to fall in love. 

1 comment:

  1. Dear Briana,

    I also like very much Lewis’ idea of a cigarette carton, how important for us women it is to remember that and for men to understand this!
    Furthermore, may I suggest that you may want to conclude with the remainder of the readings of ‘The Four Loves’ !
    Although not in your assigned readings they are much worth a read & discussion; as 'Storge', Philia and finally 'Agape' the love that should come before/above all, as ‘learning to be Christ-like’ and ‘loving your own family’, and ‘learning to have and cultivate friendships’ should come before you are able to deal well with Eros or Venus?
    I.e. Agape > Storge > Philia > Eros > Venus.
    Yes, may God be with you as you seek to follow His (not Lewis’) guidance on the developments of Eros in your life!
    Adriana & Paulo